Why “Tomboy” Is Popular
In the “Super Girl” finals that ended a few days ago, two “tomboys” Li Yuchun and Zhou Bichang voted for the first and second runner-up with more than 3 million text messages, and the girly Zhang Liangying won the third place with an absolute disadvantage.
Has the times changed?
Why are tomboys so popular?
”The times are indeed changing. As the division of labor becomes less and less obvious, there will be less and less gender differences.
Yuan Rong, a counselor at Guangzhou Qingtian Psychological Counseling Center, told reporters recently, “But the times have not changed, because people of both sexes have always been easy to welcome, and their psychology will be relatively healthy.
” “假小子”更健康 一位50多岁的女音乐人是一名“玉米(李宇春Fans的昵称)”，她写了长达四五千字的文章，从专业角度上称赞了李宇春的唱功，The article mentioned at the end that Li Yuchun was the image of her dream. She wanted to be such a girl when she was a child, but did not dare to do it, and finally became a good girl.
Such articles are not rare.
Why do many women want to do but dare not be tomboys, reluctant but still be good girls?
Yuan Rong, a consultant at the Guangzhou Qingtiantian Psychological Counseling Center, said that this is because not only the public insists on traditional female stereotypes, but their parents must also insist on such stereotypes. The combination of the two pressures makes them afraid to go freely.Shape one’s third sexuality.
He said that the first and second sexual characteristics are mainly determined by physiological basis, but the third sexual characteristics are mainly formed through identification and imitation of parents.
Boys are easy to identify with fathers, and girls are easy to identify with mothers.
If the father is a brave, decisive, rude, open-minded man, and a good dad who loves children, the boy will regard his father as an idol for learning and transcendence.
If the mother is a gentle, kind, reasonable, and considerate woman, and a good mother who loves children, she will naturally become an idol for her daughter to learn and imitate.
Boys identify with fathers and girls identify with mothers. This is the basis for the formation of third sexual characteristics.
However, Yuan Rong said that the healthiest situation is that children not only identify with same-sex parents, but also recognize some excellent third sex characteristics of heterosexual parents.
If the parents’ third sexual characteristics are healthy, then the child is likely to develop a healthy androgynous temperament.
Yuan Rongqin said that people of both sexes are relatively healthier because most people of both sexes have a happy and harmonious family.
The relationship between parents is harmonious, and the relationship between parents and children is also harmonious.
Androgynous people are more likely to be popular because they have a strong appeal to both sexes, which is an important reason why Li Yuchun and Zhou Bichang are so popular.
”Very female” is a stereotype. There are three levels of gender differences.
First of all, the differences in reproductive organs are called “first sexual characteristics”. Once the baby is born, we can know the baby’s gender through the first sexual characteristics.
Secondly, breasts, throat knots, body hair, etc. are called “second sexual characteristics”. In the infants and young children, there is no difference between the two sexes in these aspects, but after entering adolescence, these physical characteristics gradually develop and become a gender-specific “Second sexual characteristics. ”
As for personality traits such as personality and temperament, they are called “third sexual characteristics.”
For the third sexual characteristics of both sexes, there are some habitual understandings: men are straightforward, ambitious, bold, fighting spirit, strong and active in love, women are poor, cowardly, timid, sentimental, polite, rightThe demand for love is passive, and the demand for love is strong.
However, in psychology, this habitual recognition is called “gender stereotypes”.
Humans are born with the simplification of thinking, so they have formed some simple understandings of some things. This is the stereotype, which facilitates the thinking, but also hinders the creativity and flexibility of the thinking.
When it comes to gender, the common stereotype is that men and women have opposite sex qualities: male masculine, female feminine; male rough, female delicate; male strong, female gentle; male direct, female gentle; male bold, female shy; Males are ambitious, women are polite . …… But gender stereotypes are constantly changing with the times. In the past, the most typical female stereotype was “women have no talent is virtue.”
But now, this stereotype is hard to hold.
In the past, the stereotype of males was “dominant male,” but now there are more and more “domestic males.”
In the top three of “Super Girl”, Zhang Liangying, the third runner-up, basically met the stereotype of women. Champion Li Yuchun and runner-up Zhou Bichang both overturned this stereotype.
In addition, the two “tomboys” were so popular that their popularity among teenagers far outweighed Zhang Liangying.
Yuan Rongqin said that it can be expected that they will have a strong impact on girls of this generation and will change the stereotype of women to a considerable extent.
”Bisexuals” are more popular In fact, in life, we will find some examples of bisexual temperaments that are more popular.
Wang Ning, 48, is a classic example.
He is a Sichuanese. He is not tall. On the surface, the man is full of flavours and strong voice. He never messes with things and is very bold.
But at the same time, he has a very feminine side. He is very delicate and meticulous to family and friends. He is a “psychologist” in the circle of friends and family, and they like to consult him for business and personal matters.
In contrast, 26-year-old Li Zheng is slender, with long hair and a feminine appearance.
But among a group of charming female partners, she is also a man. She always speaks neatly and daring to do things. In addition, she sympathizes with the weak and usually takes care of the weak sisters. She is happy to be the wronged woman from her boyfriendAccompanied by the support, thus winning the admiration and trust of the sisters. At the same time, in the eyes of male friends, this flat-breasted girl who likes to wear suspenders is generous, with a bold personality in her personality. She can drink beer and play football, chat about state affairs and military affairs, and do not behave too much like other girls.Tweaking, she wo n’t cry for trivial matters. More importantly, when a boy is facing her, she will also show the coquettishness and fragility of a little girl. When others are sad and need comfort, she will not lose the gentleness and tenderness of a girlTherefore, Li Zheng is also very skillful in the circle of male friends. Not only is he dubbed by some people as “brothers in suspenders”, but he also has a team of admirers of his own, so that many men do not know how to handle themselves at first sight.The envious female friends are very envious.
Both men and women should learn from each other’s strengths and have excellent characteristics of masculinity and femininity.
Women can be enthusiastic, hot-tempered, smart and strong, and men can be tough and soft, rich in feelings, and pragmatic.
If it is said that men are one world and women are another world, then people with an bisexual temperament will certainly be more likely to travel freely between the two worlds and win the favor of both worlds at the same time.
This is the basis for the growing popularity of “bisexuals”, and “Super Girl” is just one example.
Will the gender differences disappear?
The first to suggest “bisexual temperament” was American psychologist Bem.
Bem believes that traditional culture regards masculinity and femininity as a dimension. People with high masculinity must have low femininity, people with high femininity must have low masculinity, and neutral people are considered non-maleFemale person.
Bem opposes such stereotypes, and she believes that this habitual perception contrasts masculinity with femininity.
Therefore, she proposed a new thinking: masculinity and femininity are two independent dimensions.
In this way, you can distinguish one person: typical men: sharp increase in masculinity, femininity is prominently low; typical women: sharp rise in femininity, prominently lower masculinity;The concentration of masculinity is high, and the bloom of femininity is also high; undifferentiated people: the bloom of masculinity is low, and the bloom of femininity is also low.
Bem’s research caused a sensation and quickly gained general acceptance in the psychology community.
Other psychologists have also proposed an understanding of “bisexual temperament” from the perspective of social evolution: people are passive recipients of gender stereotypes, but they are more active shapers.
People continue to break through the traditional gender stereotypes, mainly because this breakthrough will make them more adaptable to new social challenges.
In the past, men and women faced different social challenges, and they also formed a distinct third sex difference. But now, the sexes are becoming less and less obvious in the social division of labor, and the gender difference in the third sex will also be more and moreLess.
Gender differences may even disappear when the issues facing both sexes are the same.
Psychological self-test: Are you “bisexual”? The following items are the Bem Gender Scale. If you find that you are in full compliance, you will score 7 points. If you do not agree, you will score 1 point.Exactly match, according to the degree of compliance, where appropriate, at 1?
Points are given between 7.
Helping others 4.
Have an ideal 5.
Unstable mood 7.
Love movement 11.
Love exaggerates 13.
Love flattery 15.
Feeling happy 16.
Strong personality 17.
There is power 20.
Female heart 21.
Favorable strong 22.
Have analytical ability23.
Strong compassion 24.
Outstanding jealousy 25.
Love adventure 29.
Not frank 31.
Good at showing compassion to others 33.
Easy to quell being hurt 36.
Love dominates people 38.
Gives a warm 42.
Willing to confess 44.
Love to attack others 47.
Behave like a leader 50.
Comply with the environment 52.
Personal supremacy 53.
Don’t say swear 54.
Highly competitive 56.
Love children 57.
Have ambition 59.
Love to play 60.
Conservative scoring: 1, (1) Calculated from 1, 4, 7, 10, 13, 16, 19, 22, 25, 28, 31, 34, 37, 40, 43, 46, 49, 52, 55, 58Add the scores and divide by 20. That’s your masculinity.
(2) Add 2, 5, 8, 11, 14, 17, 20, 23, 26, 29, 32, 35, 38, 41, 44, 47, 50, 53, 56, 59 to get the points and divideTake 20 and that’s where your femininity blooms.
(3) If your male and female scores are both 4.
9 or more, then you are “bisexual.”